What is Co-Dependency, Really?

We live in a co-dependent world within families, relationships, governments, workplaces, society. 99.99999% of us are or have been co-dependent, and we’ve all been in a co-dependent relationship at one time or another.

Maybe, you feel something is amiss now with your Self or with your relationships. If you don’t feel excited when you see the most significant people in your life, or when they call, or when you go to work or get home, you probably are in a co-dependent relationship RIGHT NOW and don’t even realize it!

So what is co-dependency, really?
The simplest way to describe co-dependency … is when you live someone else’s life, instead of your own. You are dependent on what others think and feel about you or about what you do. You only feel good and confident about your Self and confident if you receive their love, acceptance, approval or validation. Your life is driven and affected from the outside, in, rather than from within you, out.

It is nothing to be ashamed of. It’s not your fault. And there’s no one to blame. All of us, including our parents, their parents and those who walked before them, have done the best they can. It is what we have been conditioned and programmed to do and it runs us … our thoughts, our feelings, our beliefs, our decisions, our behaviors and habits, our actions thus our results. Due to this, you live by co-dependent rules rather than healthy, intra-dependent rules.

The cost to you is …

  • You let ‘shoulds’ dictate your decisions, your behaviors, your actions.
  • You don’t know what you really like or want, or what works for you or not.
  • You feel disconnected from your Self, from your passion, from your creativity.
  • You say yes when you mean no or want to say no.
  • You look for love in all the wrong places, just like the song says.
  • You use work, food, shopping, sex, drug and/or alcohol to make you feel better.
  • You don’t feel worthy or deserving of love, support or the good things in life, especially
    if you’ve made a mistake or failed.
  • You give and give to others, and then wonder why they don’t do the same for you;
    you resent it and get mad at your Self for doing it again.
  • You don’t take of your Self and always put others first; you feel exhausted and worn out.
  • You fear your or others anger and think it is wrong to feel angry.
  • You don’t feel safe and need to protect your Self from being hurt; you’re shut down.
  • You worry about how someone will react and don’t express what you’re thinking and feeling.
  • You feel like a victim to circumstances and you blame others for your unhappiness or woes.
  • You have a lot of drama and crazy making in your life and relationships; there always seems to be a crisis brewing.

If you can relate to any of these, then it’s time to address your co-dependent tendencies.

And the good news it, you can change it! There is a way to get out of co-dependent relationships and to stop ending up in them, over and over again.

Take the FREE Co-Dependency survey to find out what parts of co-dependency run you. When you’re done, you’ll receive a recap of your scores and what the results mean in how co-dependency affects the different aspects of you and your life.

From there, you can determine what help you may need. You are not alone in this and we understand it. We teach how to heal co-dependency in our Module I and II Diamond Power Within workshops and the Healing Co-Dependent Relationships webinar. Find out more at: http://bit.ly/kawebinars.

You can learn how to let it go, be done with it and manage it if other people in your life are co-dependent. You can take back your life. Be in control. Live in freedom and joy.

And co-create success from the True you and live the life you really desire! It’s time. Let us assist you in this journey!

Again, the Co-Dependency survey can be found at: http://bit.ly/KAAssessments!

To Your Freedom & Success!
Amanda

P.S. I offer a 15-Minute FREE Consultation if you want assistance to move forward in your change, empowerment and success!

 

 

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  1. Amanda Butler says:

    The Co-Dependency survey is one of the most important steps that someone can take to create change in their life!

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